People Are Sharing The Moment They Knew It Was Time For A Divorce, And They're Honestly Relatable (2025)

Sometimes, a marriage just isn't working anymore. And while that evolution can be slow and subtle, for some people, there's one specific moment when they realize it's officially time to make a change. So when TikTok user, lawyer_samantha posted, "Tell me about the moment you knew it was time for a divorce," it's not surprising that it garnered over 9,000 comments.

So, without further ado, here are 17 times when someone realized it was officially time for them to begin the process of getting a divorce:

1. "When 'Pizza Hut' texted his phone, 'Good morning baby.'"

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—erin4584

2. "I asked him to wash the dishes. He washed them with hand soap. When I asked, 'Why?' he said, 'Well, if you wanted me to use dish soap, you would have set me up for success and set it out.' It was never the same after that."

—whatmallyloves

"The king of weaponized incompetence."

—lawyer_samantha

3. "I got scolded for spending my own money on food I needed outside our grocery list. I left 19 days ago while he was at work."

—debbie921

4. "I had a 3-week-old baby, and we heard a loud bang downstairs. He said, 'Give me the baby, and you go check.'"

5. "When my husband took a travel nursing assignment six states away for 13 weeks. Within two weeks of being apart, my quality of life improved, and I realized I didn’t miss him. He was a good man, but not a great husband. It was time."

—mandatrave

6. "When I realized I was praying he would cheat so I could leave."

—o0zao0

7. "I knew it was time to start the divorce process when my therapist told me, 'Just because he doesn’t physically beat you does not mean his behavior is not abusive.'"

8. "When I asked my husband why he wouldn't put more effort into our marriage. He said, 'Because you'll never leave.' So I did."

—gingermom42

9. "I was engaged to my fiancé during the height of the BLM movement. He bought a Confederate flag and donated money to Trump's campaign in my name. I left two days later. Dogs and all."

"Now, five years later, I’m happily married to a feminist who sees me as his equal. 💙"

—justjamelynn13

10. "When I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes, my husband would eat donuts and other desserts right in front of me and sit there going, 'Mmmm, this is sooo good.'"

11. "I knew it was time for a divorce when our marriage counselor quit after one session and advised me to leave him."

—kellylaurocharles

12. "I had convinced myself to look past the cheating, alcoholism, and the drug addiction. But when my husband ripped apart a canvas painting of me and my late father, I went to the courthouse first thing next morning."

—rachel.michelle94

13. "I realized it was time to leave the marriage when I started seeing how other women were being treated in their own marriages. I wanted that princess treatment."

14. "I had a friend who had a terrible husband. He was emotionally and mentally abusive, but would lovebomb my friend to keep her from leaving. They had a little girl whom he would ignore when she irritated him. After a particularly really bad fight that left my friend crying for hours, I asked her, 'Would you want your daughter to stay with an abusive man like him?' She said, 'No.' I said, 'Then why are you?' They divorced shortly after that."

—ryen_lesli

15. "When my husband started becoming MAGA. I looked at him just sitting on the couch while I was cooking dinner, and I got so angry at his existence. I knew it was time."

—kt_tails

16. "I knew it was time for a divorce when I opened up about my post partum depression and my husband told me to 'grow up.'"

17. And lastly, "I realized when I was Googling, 'Should I get a divorce?' 😂"

—devnyyyy

There you have it, 17 moments when people knew it was time to start the divorce process. So, did any of these feel relatable to you or somebody you know? Or do you have your own story? Let us know your thoughts in the comments!

And a major shoutout to everyone who has decided divorce is the right decision for them!

Note: Some submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.